I spoke with GFJ last night, and found out a little more about things. It seems like her friend did start to talk, and things got back to GFJ about the OKC ads. It doesn't pay to go into our conversation, save that I did an honest "Mea Culpa, Mea Culpa, Mea Maxima Culpa." And we kept talking for a long while afterwards about the topics we usually talk about. But it goes to show that after a point, one should make sure disconnect with one's fears and march into the future without a safety net.
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We all have close friends who want to look out for us. It's important to have them, as no person can live in isolation. I've talked about Lili's issues, but I accept her with all her flaws because she's a friend, as Vicki accepts me because I'm her friend.
Unlike family, we get to pick and choose our friends. Many of the friendships we have are with people who we've known for years. We feel an intimacy with them that allows to pick up and resume - even after years have gone by. Some of our friendships are born in the heat of battle. Men might bond with other men with whom they ave been partnered with, such as policemen, firemen, and the military. Women may bond with other women to deal with stressors in their lives, such as raising children, divorce and widowhood. And these bonds are often stronger than that between spouses.
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It only makes sense that I, as Marian, develop friendships. As the old phrase goes: "No Man is an Island." And that's an important thing for all of us to be aware of these days.