Wednesday, November 30, 2016

Tuesday, and nothing to do but have the TV on to make background noise.


No, the above is NOT my resume.  And though I had nothing to do all day, I received a call from a headhunter looking to place me in a contract position.  Given that I am out of work, and have no constraints against taking a contract offer, I told the fellow that I'd like to look into this position.  Whether or not I hear from this person again is something else.  I've dealt with my share of headhunters last time I was out of work, and most of them don't bother to call back if the client isn't interested.

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When I have nothing to do, I often leave the TV on in the background breaking the silence.  Usually, I'll leave the talking news heads making their noises, and there are a lot of noises to be made this season. Today was no exception.  So I was pleasantly surprised when this headhunter called.  As much as I feel that he'll never call back, I responded to his questionnaire towards the end of the day - just before I went out of the house for the first time.

Opening my door to check for a package I was expecting, again, I was pleasantly surprised to find the sweater dress I ordered a few days ago.


Although the picture above is a black dress, I bought this dress in blue - and it makes all the difference.  The pattern of the stripes gives me the illusion of having curves that I don't have. And just as important - the dress is Comfy!  I'm glad I bought it, even though most of my friends advised against buying the dress.  So I ended putting this dress on before going outside.

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Sadly, none of Marian's usual friends were available today.  So I ended up going to the movies.  I wanted a place that I could park my car indoors and ended up in White Plains.  Given that I had 15 minutes to spare before the film, I picked up some sushi from Shoprite and ate it there before going to the theater.  Unfortunately, they had problems with the ticket line, and I missed the first couple minutes of the film.  "Arrival" is not your typical science fiction flick. Yes, it has many of the typical plot issues which would be expected (e.g.: human xenophobia about alien species) for a film of this type. But the film's premise is sound: How do we learn to communicate with a species alien to this planet?  And this will be a problem that humanity may have to deal with at some distant time in the future. Would I recommend this film to others?  Yes - but only if you don't expect a lot of action.

Driving home, I chatted with GFJ - and she's glad that the weather looks better for Thanksgiving than it did earlier in the week.  This is good for me, as her family won't insist that she stay with them instead of coming to my place that evening. 

PS:  When I got home, there was another email from a different headhunter.  So I sent out another response (after midnight, to keep the job search log happy, by having search activities on 3 different days of the week.)  Let's see how this one turns out.





Tuesday, November 29, 2016

Quickie: Laundry Room


This layout is similar to the configuration of washers and dryers that my doorway shares with the one next to it.  There are two washers and two dryers shared between each set of 12 apartments in my complex.  When someone has a lot of laundry to do, it can cause problems for other residents - as no one wants to walk over to the next pair of entrances and use their machines.  Just as bad, when one machine goes out, it can put a big crimp in everyone and their laundry needs - as just happened tonight.

Recently, I decided to look at shoes at The Avenue and inspect bras at Lane Bryant after skipping out on a meetup I could have attended.  By the time I had visited my quota of stores for the day, I had a little bit of stomach irritation - so I figured that I'd go home.  Of course, this meant that I'd have to contact BXM to tell her that the night's plans were off.  Luckily, she was bushed from her activities, so it was all as well....

When I got home that day, I started to do laundry and got two loads in.  However, one of the washers stopped accepting cards around 8:00 pm.  So that means I'll have to use the other machine for my next load of laundry when it finishes - and not be able to get everything done until after 10:00 pm.  AARGH!  I hate cutting things close - especially, when the machines stop accepting payments after 10:00 pm, forcing me to wait until the next day to do laundry....

One thing I realize - If I go full time as Marian, I'll have to be careful in the summer - as I don't want to get overheated because of my wig...  (Hopefully, they will have a "cure" for male pattern alopecia soon!!!)


Monday, November 28, 2016

Quickie: Tappan Zee Bridges - Current and Future


Every day that I went work, I was treated to views of both old and new Tappan Zee Bridges.  And I find it amazing how quickly the new bridge seems to being built.  This is a sign of good project management, as I have not heard of any significant delays in the project.

One of the things I don't like about the project is that we will see a fare increase once the new bridge is in use.  Of course, our governor made sure that the project got underway - and said we'll deal with finding the money later on.  This is not so bad in a state like New York, as we are Schizophrenic by nature.  Upstate New Yorkers hate the idea of spending any money down here, as they don't see the benefit to the state as a whole.  Folks who live near New York City see upstate as a bunch of leeches who don't carry their own weight.  This problem has existed since colonial times, and will likely never end as long as New York is a single state.

New York is doing many things right on this project.  They will be switching fare collection to EZ-Pass and customer billing, as they have on the Henry Hudson Bridge.  There are no toll collectors there, and traffic moves smoothly.  New York is hoping for similar results with a much more traveled route - as they can't afford for the construction zone to be a bottleneck.

You may ask - what does this have to do with me being transgender?  The answer is - Not Much!  However, I do use this bridge when I go off to make my New Jersey shopping trips, as it is the most direct link between me and the women's clothing stores I go to in New Jersey.


Sunday, November 27, 2016

Half a day en-femme is better than none

Sometimes I feel like I'm two people living in the same body.  First, is Mario, the male who did well in his career, but never was really at ease with people.  Second is Marian, the female that seems to charm people because she is never perceived as a potential threat, and whose words often bring smiles to other women's faces.

Today, GFJ was going to her cousin's for a family get together.  For me, this meant that I could have a day (mostly) en-femme that I could use to go shopping and/or visit friends.  Given that I didn't get out until after lunch, it made much more sense for me to go shopping and see if a particular dress was still available at Catherine's.




Sadly, this dress wasn't available for me to look at when I got to the store in Paramus.  But I think I know why Vicki didn't like it - the dress has to be hand washed, and this is a big annoyance.  While there, I looked around, and the only thing I might have been interested in was not in my size, and I probably wouldn't have bought it if it fit me.  However, I may have had an almost encounter - and I won't find out until my next exchange of emails.  I think I may have been looking at back of the head of the "Cat Lady" (she is a plus sized cisgender woman), and I don't think she got a glance at me.  If she were to have seen me and not recognized me, I would have had a quick and polite woman to woman chit chat, and then quickly exit the store.  As I left the store, I wrote a quick email to the "Cat Lady" to say hello and see what she was up to.  I figure that if she thought it was me, I'd hear from her.  And if not, it'd be a pleasant email to receive on a slow weekend.

Next, it was off to The Avenue to browse around.  Here, I tried on a faux leather coat (pictured below) that I'd be interested in if I could justify the extra cash.



Unlike dresses, I often take a larger size when buying women's coats or jackets.  If they had this coat in my size, I may have broken down and bought it if the coat fit.  It felt nice, and the idea of fake leather didn't bother me.   And it would have been a good addition to my closet if I could have justified the money I'd have spent on it.

When done there, it was my long trip back home.  It seems like the Tappan Zee Bridge was backed up several miles, and it made sense for me to take a more relaxed way home via the Bear Mountain Bridge.  Did I save any time?  Absolutely not.  But I felt better than if I had gotten stuck in a 5 mile long traffic jam - and that was exactly what I needed to close out my day in Marian Mode....









Saturday, November 26, 2016

The Friday before Thanksgiving - and I don't need to do any serious shopping


I never bothered with Black Friday shopping.  There is a lemming like quality to people all in a rush to get one or two items at bargain prices.  As for me, I enjoyed my sleep, and usually got my shopping done before Thanksgiving. This year, my shopping list includes GFJ, a token gift for my brother and sister in law, and an inexpensive gift for my Dad in the nursing home.  With the exception of candies and chocolates for people like my cleaning lady, I could do my Xmas shopping at almost any time of year.  So why bother being one of the lemmings?

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What would be on my wish list, if I made the full list available to others?  Since I have most of the things I want, I don't ask for anything of importance.  For people who know me as Marian, I could use a few tasteful items of clothing.  But then, I am a clothes horse.  If I were to ask for some practical items, my list would contain some pull on slacks and sweaters for these cold days ahead.  Unfortunately, it's hard to find feminine clothing which gives my body the illusion of having the right proportions.

Today, my plans were to do some volunteer work at the GLBT center, and then go to dinner with the gals.  There would be no time to drive to New Jersey to see if a certain dress is available in my size at Catherine's, and to see if it is a dress I want to buy.

As usual, I didn't get moving until late in the morning, and didn't make it to the GLBT center until 1:30 pm or so.  At that point, the director showed me some of the bare bones basics of how to add sub pages to a menu, and from there, I finished fleshing things out.  It's far from finished, but I got something done.  As I thought of things, the more I realized that they take forever to do anything in this place.  The only thing they need to do there is to keep the place alive.  This means that they spend a tiny bit of money, and if something that could be done quickly doesn't get done, then so be it.  I can live with this - the place allows me to keep myself a little busy, and neither I nor they expect a lot to get done in a short amount of time.

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Once I was done at the GLBT Center, I killed time by driving over to Ulta Beauty in Port Chester, so I know where to go when my container of Dermablend runs out.  Having a local site beats having to travel to Woodbury, Poughkeepsie, or to Long Island to replenish my makeup supplies.  From there, it was to Yonkers, where I finished a book I was reading before going to the meetup down the road.

I arrived at the meetup on time (for a change) and sat down next to a couple of the gals.  It's nice to treated as a lady among other ladies, and I had fun chatting over dinner.  One lady told a true story about a blind date she went on.  No, we're not talking about meeting a random gentleman.  We're talking about a man who was blind, and took this woman on a date to the movies!  (Before you get any ideas, one can get the gist of many movies just by listening to the audio.  So this may not be as queer as it sounds.)  However, this was only one of this woman's strange and unsuccessful dates.  Another was a man who asked that she accompany him to the hospital, and then keep him company afterwards.  Why? you might be asking. And "What in the heck are you getting at?"  Well, this bad date was having a balloon surgically implanted, so that he could enjoy intimate relations with a woman.  That was the last time she saw that fellow.  Sadly, she didn't tell any more stories tonight.  But I know the ladies trust me enough as Marian, not to be embarrassed to dish the dirt on some of the men they have been with.  (Now, if only I could have added my story about dating a woman who had to be signed out of a rehab center....)

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The meetup ended, and I had enough time to rush out to New Jersey and look at the dress I didn't buy, so that I could make a decision to buy it next month.  So off I drove to New Jersey, and the traffic ground to a standstill 1 mile from the exit for the bridge.  (Seems like only 1 lane was open, due to a nasty accident on the exit ramp from the Major Deegan Expressway. At this point, I knew that I'd never make it to the store by 9:00 pm, and bailed on this idea.  Instead, I then called Pat, and went to her place to gab for a while.

Now, Pat has always been a worry wart, and saw no hope in this election.  She's the type who'd vote for the Green party - even if she were in a state where her vote made a difference.  So she was really feeling down because of all the right wing extremists that Trump has already named to his cabinet posts.  And I can't blame her for worry.  The GOP has made sure that people like Pat, with no money, no discretionary income, and no chance to improve themselves due to health or age, with policies now being floated by both party apparatchiks and its nomenklatura.

Eventually, it was time to leave, and I tried to reach GFJ on the ride home.  She couldn't hear the phone, and called me when I was just pulling into my driveway.  Instead of telling her to call back, I pulled back out and made the scenic round trip to Peekskill and back via side roads.  This allowed us to have an uninterrupted chat.  It seems like tomorrow may involve more driving than she expected.  The long and short of it is, I might just have the better part of the day in Marian mode, so that I can examine that dress in the store at my leisure.

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As I've said before - I'm not the type to shop at someone else's schedule. And I'm very glad to be this way....






Friday, November 25, 2016

A day en-homme longer than I wanted


My cleaning lady is on a once a month schedule, and today was her scheduled day to come.  However, I had several loads of laundry to get started, and other tasks that needed tending to before she got here.  As a result, I had to stay in Mario Mode much longer than I normally would, and couldn't get out the door as Marian until the cleaning lady left.

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I had several loads of laundry to take care of when I got up this morning.  There was no way I'd be able to take care of them before the cleaning lady arrived, so I figured that I'd stay in Mario Mode until the laundry was done.  After putting a load into the washer, I came upstairs and totally surprised the cleaning lady - she had just arrived, and wasn't expecting me to open the door as she was putting her coat over a chair.  We chatted a bit, and I left her to take care of her work.

When she left, I started the process of getting ready for a night out as Marian.  My first stop would be drinks with the gals at one meetup, followed by a night in Yonkers playing games.  Even so, I had to go downstairs as Mario to pick up the laundry, and hang up the dress I just washed to line dry on one of the entryways to the kitchen. 

What I haven't mentioned so far is that I postponed my first day back at the GLBT Center, so that I could stay in Mario mode.  I didn't like having to do this, but it was worth the inconvenience because I took care of 5 loads of laundry - with 1 or 2 more still to go.  I'd have liked to go there today, but it wasn't worth putting off doing laundry for another few days.

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Just before I had scheduled to leave the house for a women's group meetup in Tuckahoe, GFJ called.  When I picked up the phone, she said not to worry about us.  (Yes, there were worries on my mind, given the text she sent me at 4:30 pm.)  And then, she went into a litany about her "Wasband" and the troubles he was causing her. You can imagine how I feel about this person, and I have never met the fellow. (Yes, I know there are 3 sides to each divorce: his side, her side, and an objective truth side that neither of them can see.)  We chatted for a half hour, and then I was off to the meetup.

The GPS gave me technically accurate directions to the place of the meetup.  However, it didn't give me "good" directions, as the real entrance to the bar and grill was through a parking lot on a side street, and not the main street address given for the place.  I didn't recognize anyone there, as I only attended 1 meetup with this group.  But the woman organizing the group remembered me, and I settled in with several other ladies.

All too soon, it was time to go, and I wished the leader well.  Hopefully, she'll find a good job in Dallas, and that she'll be back in New York from time to time.  So I left the bar and grill, and went to my Thursday night gaming session in Yonkers.  Today, it was a packed house, we we has 12+ game players there, including 3 new people.  It was nice seeing new blood there, and I hope they all come back soon.

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I left game night around 11:15 pm, and took Yonkers Avenue over to Central Park Avenue, from where I could reach the major parkways and get home quickly.  The reason I mention the drive is that there was a fellow who crossed the double yellow line, waited a little for the light, then turned left onto Central Park Avenue.  I made my legal left, and followed this guy without any intent.  A few seconds later, I saw a car with flashing lights behind me, and I moved over to the right.  No, the cop was not after me.  He was after the other fellow, and had pulled him over about 2 blocks away.  Whew!  I'm glad I didn't have to show Mario's ID while dressed as Marian.

After that, it was an uneventful drive home, and I was very glad that I don't have to get up at 6:00 am anymore....




Thursday, November 24, 2016

Seeing family and career networking is a big pain.


I've never been that good with social networking, and I need to do so in order to find new work.  As much as I don't need a high paying job to get by, I do need something which will allow me to max out future social security payments.  It'll be a damned shame if working all these years with maximum contributions, that I have to take a job which reduces my benefits due to the way Social Security pays benefits.

Today, I received a message (on Mario's Facebook page) from a woman I once wished I could have had as a partner.  She knows about Marian and recognizes the issues I'd have in any relationship where my partner is less than welcoming of Marian.  She clued me on to how Social Security benefits are computed, and there is a potential whammy here - if I take a lower paid job, it may reduce my benefits, even though I have paid almost the maximum into Social Security for years.  Something is very wrong here....

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There were two things on the docket for today.  First was a visit to Dad, and then a trek into NYC for a PMI meeting.  Given the two, I could skip seeing Dad until Thanksgiving.  But it didn't make sense to skip the PMI meeting, as I need to network in order to find work.  So, I went into NYC and got off at the same subway station that I used to get off at when I worked at my megabank.

The presentation at the PMI meeting was interesting, as it focused on many elements of project management from a lawyer's perspective.  I met a few people there, one of whom may be a useful contact. But it is always a little frustrating to travel 90 minutes each way for a meeting that takes about 90 minutes.  Yet, it's the type of thing that can pay off someday, so I keep going to monthly meetings and playing my job search Lotto tickets.

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I had sent images of two dresses I'm interested in buying to several people: Vicki #1 , Lili, WDJ, and BXM.

The dress on the left is best seen in the color I liked most - Majolica Blue.  It brings out the striping that helps me look a little more slender.

The dress on the right is offered in only one color.  I like this dress, and would likely wear it with a pair of leggings.

However, the jury is mixed on these two dresses.  Vicki prefers the dress to the left, in part because of its rayon fabric.  She doesn't like the dress on the right because it is largely polyester/spandex.  However, Lili, WDJ, and BXM all prefer the dress on the right.  And I can see why. The grey color is simpler, and would give more flexibility in the accessories with which I'd adorn it. I'm leaning towards buying both of them.  The first dress this month, with the second dress to come in next month - after I've paid most of my bills.

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When Vicki responded to my email, she noted that she was buying tickets for a concert to be held in February.  I'm looking forward to going to the concert AND going to The Little Bear again.  Although the venue is closer to GFJ's place than my apartment, I'll be returning home, as I'll likely be there in Marian Mode, and don't want to bother GFJ with me changing back to Mario that evening.

At least life hasn't stopped for me in these days without a job.


 

Wednesday, November 23, 2016

Rainy Days and Mondays always get me down


This isn't Monday, but it is sure as hell raining outside today.  And this is one day that I was glad that it was a day scheduled to be en-homme instead of en-femme, as I wouldn't want to ruin any of Marian's clothes.

There was only one on my docket for the day - an early co-op board meeting.  Now that I am not working, it makes sense to shift the schedule a couple of hours earlier, so that the other folk (all retired) could make use of the rest of their evenings. So, I stayed indoors all day and relaxed, as this was not the type of day to outdoors in the rain.

Eventually, 5:00 pm came, and I went next door to the board meeting.  There was a lot on the docket, and we skipped over an item or two, so that we could get the important things done tonight.  (I wanted to skip discussion of the proposed new co-op logo, as I didn't bring examples to the meeting.) Luckily, I was able to hold my own on a couple of items that were important to me - even if all we did was to defer discussion until after the new year.

The meeting ended at 8:15 pm - over an hour longer than we usually take for a monthly meeting. Afterwards, HWA and I gabbed for about an hour about current affairs, the recent election being one of them.  I told my friend that "Teapot Dome" will look good next to what I expect from this coming administration.  Given the blurred lines between the Trump family and their businesses, I see no way for the president to be to make decisions for the country which have negative effects on the family businesses.

But I don't want this to become a political blog.  There are enough embittered transgender folk out there, and I don't want to add fuel to their fears.  They have enough to be concerned about without illusions of false impending doom -or- false hopes regarding real threats. Instead, I prefer to focus on my "little" life, and deal with things one day at a time.





Tuesday, November 22, 2016

Super Moon


There's not that much difference in how the moon looked tonight and with other full moons. But it was a nice excuse to get outdoors and look at the beauty of our one natural satellite.

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Getting up late has been something I've been doing a lot of lately.  I don't miss getting up by 6:00 am, so I could be on a train at 7:30 am and in at work by 9:30 am. With 13 hours of my day dedicated to work (or transport to/from work), I didn't have much time available in my life for myself.  Now I have the time, but I'd love to trade half of it for half of the money I lost from having a job.

Although I was awake around 11:00 am, I didn't get moving until 3:00 pm. This wasn't a problem, as I didn't have to be in Pelham until 6:30 pm.  And this would give me just enough time to stop at Staples for something to hold an Arts Westchester badge on my blouse or dress. Or, it should have given me enough time....

Around 5:00 pm, I started my trek down to Pelham.  This should have given me more than enough time to get to Pelham, with time enough to spare to stop by Staples and Mickey D's before my time at the theater.  However, there was a nasty traffic jam at the intersection of the Sprain Brook, Bronx River, and Cross County parkways. I was able to bail at Tuckahoe road, and stop for food at Mickey D's.  This was a big mistake, as the fast food joint was understaffed, and I had to wait 20 minutes before getting my food.


But this not the worst of it.  I figured that I still had some time to spare, and could get to the Hutchinson via the NYS Thruway (Route 87) to the Cross County, and then side roads from there.  Well, as soon as I got on the Thruway, traffic was almost at a standstill. Just before the exit I planned to take was a nasty multi car accident, where someone was being taken away via stretcher.  There were several fire trucks, police cars and the like on the scene, and 3 lanes of traffic were being funneled into 1 to give the emergency workers room to do their job.

Well, I eventually made it to the side road I wanted to take, and made it to the theater a few minutes late.  But I had made a big mistake.  The movie wasn't starting at 7:00 pm.  Instead, it was scheduled to start at 8:30 pm.  Of course, I wasn't going to hang out at the theater for 90 minutes.  So I ended up going to Staples and taking care of things I skipped earlier. And then, it was back to the theater, where there were only 4 paying customers.  Yes, I handed out a single advocacy card to this group of people, but it was a waste of time to do this on a Monday night.  (But it makes sense to give away a freebie on a night the theater knows they won't lose paying customers due to my attendance.) 

Now, before I forget, the reason for the trip was to be there for the 25th anniversary showing of the movie "The Commitments". This is a better movie than I thought it would be, although the ending is predictable from how the story progressed.  If you get a chance to see it in a theater - do so.  If not, rent it.  I think you'll enjoy it for the story, if not the music.

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On the way home, I tried to reach GFJ.  I knew she was going to be busy with her girl friends tonight, so I didn't expect an answer from her. Normally, we keep in contact at least once per day.  However, I wasn't paying that much attention to her when she called earlier in the day, as I was trying to get something printed correctly on my color printer. So I wanted to hear her tell me things in greater detail - her doctors wanted to do some scans on her due to some swelling related to an injury related to a slippery floor.

I guess that I'll have to wait until tomorrow for more information....








Monday, November 21, 2016

Leave the gun. Take the cannoli


"Leave the Gun. Take the Cannoli."

Sometimes, the best of advice tells you to do something that isn't obvious.  In the above scene from The Godfather, the advice is meant to remind the young mobster about the nature of his business - little things are important, and some things should not be wasted.

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I have no intention of saying anything of much importance today. Instead, little things are what I'd like to talk about.  For example, WDJ is home again. This means that the two of us will be getting together more often.  I keep having things get in the way of seeing YGN, but I'm hoping we can get together towards the end of the week. And it looks like I'll be starting to do my volunteer work with the three organizations mentioned in earlier posts.

My brother and I have finally decided on lighting fixtures for the kitchen at the family homestead.  We needed someone other than the two of us to give us ideas. And I'm glad that my brother decided to ask for some advice at another store, as if we had gone for what he proposed, we'd have wasted a lot of money. The last thing I want to do is let this house get in the way of a relationship, so I'm letting him drive things - even though he is a mediocre project manager. He doesn't have the mindset for scheduling things, or to take care of low priority things in "slack" time.  (He is very good at minding tiny details, so he's good at what he does best - working with numbers.)

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Tonight, GFJ and I went out to have a bite to eat with some of her friends.  In our chat, we got to talking about 401k's and IRA's, and one fellow was complaining about the "complexity" of moving money from one investment vehicle at one firm to a different investment vehicle at another firm.  Two of us (both not certified financial experts or brokers) had much more knowledge than this fellow about money.  The other person, a lady I have met once before, had picked up a lot of knowledge, having worked in some capacity at a brokerage firm.

I wouldn't mind eating with people from this group again.  However, now that I know that someone from the Whine and Dine group goes to some meetups that GFJ goes to, I have to be careful not to attend when this person attends.  I don't want problems from my existence as Marian to bleed over into Mario's life.

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I owe YGM a call.  I'd like to meet again before the holidays.  Hopefully, she'll have some free time available. Once her husband ends his employment in the Northeast, I expect that they will be moving Down South.  Hopefully, we'll be able to maintian contact with each other after she has left the region

While I'm thinking of people in Connecticut,.I'm planning on writing my cousin and seeing when she'd be available for me to visit.  Of course, this would mean that Mario would be the one traveling halfway to Boston.  But maybe I could combine this visit with a stop to see an ex-girlfriend and her husband that I haven't seen in over 25 years.

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And lastly, today is the 20th anniversary of the passing of my wife. I will always be grateful that she was in my life. But I wish she had gotten to see me in Marian mode, so that I'd have an idea of whether she would have accepted this part of me.  She was a special woman, but I think we all say things like that about the people we love. And as soon as I'm done with this post, I'll likely have an alcoholic drink in her memory.

Until tomorrow....




Sunday, November 20, 2016

Volunteering this time around.


As of today, I now volunteer for 3 organizations:
  1. Arts Westchester
  2. NPW
  3. And the local GLBT Center.
With the first organization, I'll be helping to develop awareness of the Arts in Westchester, and to collect demographic data which can be used to write grant proposals which bring in money for the Arts.  The latter two organizations will allow me to keep my finger in technology, redeveloping the web pages they use to represent their organizations.  

My goal is to use experience that I gain, as well as any contacts that I develop to gain a new job.  Ideally, I will be able to work in Marian mode - especially if the job is local.  NPWJ is more than comfortable giving me a reference to one of her non profit organizations, so that I can work as Marian instead of as Mario.

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Working the web pages does not require me to have my face in public.  However, the Arts Ambassador position with Arts Westchester will have Marian up front in public.  This means that I run a much higher risk of meeting someone who knows me as Mario.  But, given how different I look in the two persona, I expect that most people won't give me a second glance.   

What would happen if someone recognizes me?  I'll tell the truth, and ask that they don't make a big deal over it. I'll also mention that I'm still living in two worlds, and will continue to do so while my dad is alive, then fully transition afterwards.  For the most part, I don't expect many problems.  But some people may also be curious, and I'll ask that they talk to me later on.

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One of the blogs I read is written by a transgender female who took her volunteer experience and parlayed it into meaningful work for a while. Rhonda lives in Florida, and seems to have her act together, as she is out and about as Rhonda "all the time", and accepted for who she is.  She is a model for what I hope to do with volunteer work - help others, and also help myself in the process. 

I figure that if I can't give others a leg up, who will be there when I need one....?




 

  

Saturday, November 19, 2016

A busy Friday


I hope you appreciate my sense of humor when posting my daily image.  Jack Webb (as Sergeant Friday) was on my TV on a regular basis while I was growing up.  Although this show would never be a hit today, it was quite entertaining for its time.

Years ago, my late wife and I went to see the movie "Dragnet" starring Dan Ackroyd and Tom Hanks.  If you knew either of us well, you'd know that we shared a unique sense of humor. So when we got to the box office, and the teenager asked us what movie we wanted to see, we responded: Dum - - - de - DUM - DUM and the kid didn't get the joke.

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Now that I got the obligatory humor out of the way, there were four things I wanted to take care of today:
  1. Calling unemployment, and getting through their automated system to find out where my payments have gone.
  2. Visiting NPWJ and her assistant at NPW, shooting the breeze, and seeing if I can be of any assistance to them.
  3. Seeing Lili, and going to see one of the latest action films at a local theater.
  4. Visiting YGN, and catching up on things since I last saw her at the beginning of the year.
I didn't expect to get everything done, but Lili had a complication of her own - a 4:00 pm appointment somewhere.

When I got up, I didn't have much energy.  Yet, I knew that I had to get moving quickly.  So when I got moving, it was off to the shower for a nice hot, steamy cleansing.  I had a sinus headache from last night, and knew that I needed to clear my head before getting ready to go out in Marian mode.

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After my shower, I still moved slowly.  Yet, I was able to make it to see NPWJ before noon.  I was there for about 90 minutes chatting, and discussing what she wanted to see in a redesigned web site. While I was down in mid-county, I stopped by the GLBT center to discuss volunteering. And now, I have tasks with two organizations to get their web sites updated to look like they were designed in the past couple of years.

A common thread with both people I spoke to today was the general depression they felt because the GOP won the election.  I expect that the TG community will go through hell over the next couple of years while GOP loyalists learn how their leaders have betrayed their interests. Sadly, we will be the ones who suffer while others temporarily prosper.

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I had totally forgotten that today was Veteran's Day, so the call to Unemployment had to be postponed. However, I didn't get the chance to call YGN to see what she was up to.  Given how hard it has been for us to meet with each other, I doubt that she'll mind waiting until next week (or the week after) to get together.

And this leaves us with Lili.

I haven't seen Lili in a while.  Having raccoons as welcome guests on her porch is something that bothers me.  But I don't mind getting together with her to see a movie now and then, and tonight was one of those nights.  She wanted to see "Doctor Strange", and I went along for the ride.  It was a pleasant action flick, with not much of a plot.  Like most action flicks, there was little character development, save to set the audience up for what is expected from the fight scenes.  One problem - Lili goes to a movie and loves to chow down on sugar candy.  I, on the other hand, wouldn't bother with food at most theaters (the Alamo Drafthouse is a noted exception), nor would I have candy - unless someone gave it to me.

After the movie was over, we went to the local diner where I had a bowl of Chili.  Given my diet as of late, it helped to have some non animal protein for a change. Lili, decided on the BLT with a side of fake poutine (the diner called it "Disco Fries") - something I wasn't about to eat.  As luck would have it, Lili filled up on the BLT, and didn't care for the fake poutine.  I can only imagine how she'll feel when eating out after her stomach sleeve is put in - she'll have cravings for food that she can not sate, and will be crying to me about why the operation was a big mistake.  As for me, I'll be glad, as she will quickly learn that sweets and starches are not her friends, and she'll stop trying to pawn them off on me. 

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All too soon, it was time to go home and strip off my dress, put my breast forms away, rinse out my tights, move my ID into my masculine wallet, and prepare to be Mario until Monday comes along.  I'm not looking forward to next week, as there will be two days that I have to be in Mario mode for evening activities.  At least, I'll have Monday, Thursday, and Friday to be in Marian mode....