Yes, these are the "New Girls on the Block". And I wish that Cablevision had carried this show in my area. Of course, I can't control what the cable company wishes to provide to its customers, and I have to go to Lili's to see this show "on-demand" at her house since her media provider carries the channel.
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So far, I like what I've seen in this show. In the past, Transgender people have been treated as freaks - more befitting typical guests on the Jerry Springer Show. This program shows transgender women as having many of the same problems as cisgender women, with a few extra problems thrown in for good measure.
Like the women in the show, I've had to learn how to shop for women's clothes on my own. There are many experiences that transgenders coming out late in life never had the chance to experience, or never will get the chance to experience. For example, when a cisgender female starts to develop breasts, she will quickly progress from no bra, to a training bra, to a series of bras that fit her developing figure. Over time, she learns which bra sizes work for her - even though most women wear poorly fitting bras. A transgender woman will likely find bra shopping an awkward experience at first, and she has no one to help guide her in her bra shopping through the stages of her breast development.
I have been with Lili as she shopped for bras - and have been treated by her as if I were a natal female in her fitting room, helping her hook the bras in back, and evaluating the fit when she turned towards me. As Marian, I get no thrill out of seeing a pair of breasts - my inner personality feels that having breasts "are no big deal", having a pair of them (albeit falsies) myself. Although I am sexually interested in females (mostly while in Mario Mode), I have almost no sexual interest while in Marian Mode.
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Another issue the women on this show have had to deal with is shoe shopping. Although the experience of shoe shopping had to have been staged for the show, I'll bet that all of these new ladies have had to deal with the fact that a man's foot is bigger than a woman's foot. In the show, one of the ladies mentioned that the group were all transgender (a faux pas in my opinion), instead of letting the salesman do his job and measure each woman's feet. This triggered a questionable response from the salesman, which in turn triggered umbrage from one of the ladies. Sadly, he was simply unprepared for what he was told, and would likely have treated these ladies as the women they are had nothing else been said.
Unlike cisgender women, transgender women usually have bigger necks, wrists, ankles, hands, and feet. This means that transgender females often can not wear the same jewelry that cisgender females wear. For example, I have found it almost impossible to find women's bracelets and/or rings that fit me properly - and I almost always have to wear necklaces with extenders. So I can only imagine how frustrated these new women must feel when they continually have hard times buying the little things that help make a woman feel pretty and feminine.
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The next problem these new women face is determining what items of clothing look good on their bodies. Most transgender women have broader shoulders than most women, smaller hips (in relation to their size), and a wider waist. If anything, transgender females tend to have undefined waists, and flatter hips. Some of us are lucky enough to fall close enough to the natal female sizes that we can disguise our flaws with careful choices in clothes. In my case, However, others are unlucky, and have to deal with waist nippers and padded panties (or other shapewear) to create a feminine shape.
I find that my body looks best in dresses, as they best deal with my issues with my waist and hips. But each transgender female has to judge her looks with a very critical eye, so that she doesn't look silly when contrasted with cisgender females. Given my size, I can't fall back upon things as padded underwear - females of my size usually don't need extra padding in the hips. Each of us transgenders will need to make compromises, so that we maximize our abilities to blend in as females.
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In many ways, being female is both a biological function as it is a social function. As I noted earlier, transgender women will never have all of the same experiences as cisgender women will likely have in their lives. Late blooming M2F transgenders will never have experiences such as choosing an outfit for the school prom, never wonder what a first kiss with a guy feels like, never get lost in the ideas and dreams of romance, and never get giddy with other young women about finding the right clothes, shoes, or accessories. Some of us late bloomers have no wish to try to live and experience the female experiences we didn't have while presenting as male. Others want the whole thing, and don't understand how silly it looks for a 50 year old to be wearing clothes designed for a 20 year old. But over time, the rough edges get smoothed out. Yet some issues still remain....
For many transgender women, our voices are major problems. I find this to be true for me, even though others say that I have an acceptable voice. When we speak, our timber and inflections often give us away as natal males presenting as females. With some of us, this is something that can be lived with - several of the transgender women I've met accept this as a physical flaw that they must live with. With me, I prefer to learn how to use what voice I have to make a more accurate female presentation. And I have learned how to raise the pitch of my voice about 1/2 octave, bringing it into the low end of the female range. (Now if only I could handle pitch control for emphasis, etc. better....)
So far, my voice has not been a big problem for me. But it is far from where I'd like it to be, given the voice played in the link. Please note that when I use the word "Pass" in the clip, I don't mean that the voice "passes" as feminine, as much as I am using it as a feminine voice for now. However, other late blooming transgender women do not bother to work on their voices, and it can be jarring to hear them and their very masculinized voices when seeing female images. Is my voice "passable"? Probably not. But it isn't holding me back from being accepted as female among cisgender female peers.
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Let's say that one is accepted by one's female peers. Is this enough? I get worried about how I'll be treated when I attempt to enter new social groups as Marian. Will I be thrown out (or rejected)? Will I be laughed at (or humiliated)? Will I be given the cold shoulder (or snubbed)? Knowing that my presentation isn't where I'd like it to be in relation to a cisgender female's natural presentation, I worry a little with each new interaction with a new group. In many ways, this is similar to what many cisgender females face - but we have a greater risk factor because we started with non-feminine standard bodies.
In short, our feminine experience in life will never be as complete as a cisgender female's experience. But for the time we spend as females, it may make us appreciate our femininity maybe a little bit more than the average female, as we weren't born with it.... (But I can't say this for sure, as there is no way for a person to be both a cisgender and transgender female at the same time.)